The Dilemmas of Desi Dating..Take 1

Hello World! I decided to try the "Blog Phenomenon" as a way to express my thoughts on life & love and hear the thoughts of others. Hopefully this public introspection will not only help me but also others will be able to relate.

Ok..I guess I'll start with a little about myself. I'm a S.D.F. (Single Desi Female, that is). Trying to find "The One"..so far..has been no easy task. I'm passed the typical "expiry date" for getting hitched.I guess a lot of people in my generation are going through the confusion of finding Mr or Miss right while dealing with the pressures of family wanting you to "settle down". This, on its own..is very stressful. Sometimes I'm unsure if I've been too picky and other times I feel I'm not picky enough.

I decided to try internet dating and am on the Desi Dating websites. I'm also dating the good ol' fashioned way and have also given in to Mom and Pops suggesting/fixing me up with this good boy or that one (modern version of the arranged marriage).

I feel like I've been doing this for YEARS now..but from what I hear once I find THE ONE it'll be all worth it. Kind of like how you have to go through the hell of labour to get a baby. Uh huh. Someone tell me where the hell my Epidural is? Don't blame me for being so skeptical and a tad bitter on the whole thing, but I've met my fair share (and then some) of freaky guys. I'm not that demanding. I've given up on the whole supermodel, John Abraham, desi god aspiration. I have no "must be a doctor/engineer/pharmacist" requirement. All I want is someone who can interest me enough to have a great conversation. A SOH that rocks. Someone who loves me..genuinely and truly. As you can see..I haven't yet given up on my romantic fantasy. (hey, I'm a chick. We can dream can't we?). I'm above average in looks. Never had a problem attracting desi or non desi men. Told I'm intelligent and funny. Have a great job. Then what's the problem? What is it that Desi Men really want?

As the years have rolled by, I found myself letting go of this or that on my ideal life partner checklist. And now I'm wondering whats left...someone who breathes and eats roti? I never want to be that girl who settled. I still am clinging on to the dream that someday I'll find someone who I love for everything that they are. But now the time factor is getting to me. I guess lectures from the family and now my married friends is making me feel like I'm going to have to suck it up and settle. Very scary thought..let me tell you.

I'm not sure if a lot of single indians are dealing with my dilemma. Trying to please the parents, trying to please yourself..but not getting pleased in the end.. What is the right thing to do? Where are you going to find this person? Still trying to figure the answer out, guys.

As for men..I feel everytime I think I figure out the eternal question "what men want", I get thrown for a loop. They tell me I'm perfect..they have never met anyone like me.. yada yada yada but something ends up missing in the end. I'm usually the one dealing with THEIR flaws while trying to keep them happy. I'm not sure if I'm doing this anymore to make things right or because I'm feeling if I lose them I won't have anyone else. I don't even want to use the word "desperation" because hopefully I don't want to reach that end of the road stage.

Well people, I'll end here for my very first post (I'm no longer a Blog Virgin!) , please feel free to comment on this. I'd love to hear whatever you have to say.