To Tell The Truth..Or Not

One of the guys I met recently is a self proclaimed Player. Yup, a player. Just hearing that I should have run for the hills and joined the witness protection program. But somehow, I haven't. Call it stupidity, naievity or maybe the fact that he didn't disclose this until I found him interesting. Yes, why don't we get her to like us and then we drop the A-bomb. Thank you very much! He's a 32 yr old with a good family and job. Yes with those details alone mama would be happy. Well, I think at this stage she'd be thrilled if I found anyone with a pulse (my mom's standards for me has drastically lowered over the years!). Initially I found him to have a lot of qualities I like. But his past bugs me. 

Maybe he thinks just because he told me the truth, everything is A ok and I'm fine n' dandy with it. I on the other hand am wondering if I'm going to be "that" girl who had the warning signs and decided to try it anyway..and got burned by a cheating man in the end. And how I don't like the cheatin men!! (been there, don't want to go there, and probably will do a Lorenna Bobbit on the guy if I ever do!). He went on to tell me how he's done a lot of one night stands (the most recent was a couple months before we met). But that now that he's met me and how he thinks I'm all fantastic and all, that he's changed his ways and isn't that guy. Hmmm.

I'm wondering if its really good to tell the truth or not. I'm not saying be a liar liar pants on fire in a relationship, but if we are not the people we were in our pasts, is it really worth it to disclose things that could be detrimental to the relationship going anywhere. I know personally, that if I never knew this tidbit about him being a player, I probably would be viewing him in a very different way. But now that I know, it taints everything about him. I'm always left thinking if the boy was a player if he can ever get the player outta the boy. And its not like he was being like this years ago..his last one night stand was earlier this year. 

I do give him props for telling me though. Most men would never be so daring. But now that I know, am I supposed to just forget about it or do I let it continue to play a part in my decision making. Ahhh, why is this so confusing!?

Hopefully I'll be able to figure this out soon. He's very eager (and thats an understatment) to get this show on the road. I'm not sure if he thinks he found the good girl (me) that he can bring home to mommy, or if he's really different. And beyond that, I'm unsure if I want to take the chance with a self proclaimed player.

To playa hate or not to playa hate...that is the question..