Comments on the Hmmm Guy

I've had some time since my last post to do some introspection. (plus, I've been insanely busy at work..so didn't have the chance to update..I know bad, bad diva!). It helped to have insightful and brutally honest replies to my Hmmm guy issue, from all of you. Sometimes it's good to have someone else's perspective on your behavior and the situation at hand. So THANK YOU to all my lovelies (Jax, IGD, Solyluna, Avec Amy, Far, Sanith). Big hugs to all of you, for giving me just the kick in the pants that I needed! You are hereby deemed my Blog Angels:)

Since I had very different comments (half of you understood how I felt and the rest were rooting for Hmmm guy) to my last post..I thought I'd just respond here (there are some basic replies to your comments in the comment section of my last post). Otherwise, my reply to your comments would end up being the length of a thesis. And then all of your eyes would burn from too much blog reading. (see, I'm thinking about you..not me!)

I'd also like to clear up some of the misunderstandings from that post and my behavior. First off, he never told me to pay for his hotel. I did it on my own accord (and I know how a lot of you were gasping about that). I felt it only fair to cover his stay as he was flying all the way here to see me. We had developed a friendship by then, and it was just me being nice to one of my friends (even though this friend was coming for a date). Also, I didn't want him coming here with any assumed expectations (ie He's paying for everything, so he's assuming I'll be a little more "friendly"..no, I wanted to see him on equal ground). I know a lot of you think I'm "cuckoo for coco pops" for doing that and in hindsight, it may have been stupid to pay for his stay (due to the way he acted after), but I don't regret it.

Secondly, I never said I paid for all the meals..just some of them. Again, it's just something I do with friends and on dates. (and if I don't pay, I at least ALWAYS offer.. I ain't cheap like that) I'm not the girl who expects the man to pay for everything. I'm much more progressive. And plus, who says a girl can't spoil the guy? I'm not sure if I should change that part of my personality or not. But it's really something I do with all friends/dates. (damn, am I sounding like I'm Polyanna or what?!). Also, if Semi BD had been sitting back enjoying me being a Sugar
Mama, I wouldn't have thought of him as being a gentleman.

About me writing him to find out what the hell happened..Dumb! Dumb! Dumb! I know, I shouldn't have done it, but it's just me giving him the benefit of the doubt. And I do that way too often for my own good. I just hated being left in the dark. I'm not a desperate gal in any way, but I just wanted to be treated with respect by someone I treated that way (I guess that "Do unto others as they do to you" rule must have been ingrained in my head as a kid..gee, thanks mom)

More so, was the fact that we developed a friendship for over a year. What the hell happened to that? If he was a REAL blind date, who I never met before, believe me, this would have been so much easier. But because I spent hours on the phone with this guy, talking about everything and anything, it wasn't simple.

Those of you who were upset that something may have happened to dear ol Hmmm guy and were letting their imaginations run wild..don't worry. He is not hanging from a spit in the Island of Cannibals waiting to be eaten by the Aboriginees. I actually found out earlier, from a friend who knows him, that he's fine n' dandy. I also did NOT offend him in any way during our weekend, as some of you assumed. If I did something wrong, I wouldn't be wondering what happened after our weekend. On the contrary, while he was here, he was complimenting me and telling me how great a time he had. He also said we should catch up again...now, would any of your guys do all of that if you DIDN'T have a good time? I thought so.

So now, after all is said and done, I'm STILL unsure of what happened. But then again, that's just life. You'll never be able to explain everything that happens to you and so I'll just have to put this one into the Hmmm Files.

Hopefully the next guy that comes along will be more clear in what he wants or will at least come with an Owners Manual...pray for me people!