The Price Of Being Too Honest

So, here's the update on the "Playa Guy" (see two posts back for all those going "Huh?"). I guess that little voice called my Intuition saved the day. Though I have had many experiences with my Inner Voice just ending up confusing things more. This time though, I'm glad I took the time to do some introspection and listen.

Player Guy (aka PG..though he was soooo not!) was not a cut and dry case for me. For one thing, I felt besides his past, he had a lot of qualities I'm looking for. He had the secure job, good family, and we got along greatl. But his blunt honesty about his past with women had me wondering. I started thinking..If I've waited this long, do I really want to settle for a Player? But I always give the good a chance before the bad, so I gave him a chance.

We dated for about a week. And then, once again, he decided to tell me everything. I felt like I was a priest and he was in Confession. He had told me about his weekend and how he took some clients at work out for dinner. And how he came home really late. Uh huh. And how they went to a strip club. Okay, A Strip Club..why couldn't you just leave that out. But he went on. I almost felt like he forgot he was talking to a girl he supposedly was interested in, and that we didn't know each other nearly that well for this candid talk. PG then proceeded to tell me how he lost over $900 that night. I secretly was hoping, he was mugged or something, and that's how he lost the money. But Mr Intuition was telling me otherwise. 

PG nonchalantly tells me that he lost it on lap dances. I was silent for a while and then my mind started spinning away thinking about what exactly had to happen for him to spend $900 in a Strip Club. And it wasn't good. Whatever benefit of the doubt I had for him, was slipping away. And so were my thoughts of him being a future husband. I'm a pretty understanding and modern girl..but $900 for lap dances..and you're telling me?!..On the top ten list of dumb things to say to a girl, he definitely was winning. Let's just call it a day, and give him the trophy for Dumb Desi Guy of the Year. I am not the girl to be at a loss for words, but that day, he left me pretty speechless. I didn't know if he expected me to high five him  or slap him. But I'm sure you can tell which one I would have picked.

I could have left it just like that and never called him again. But I'm not one for ending things like that. I had to tell him why. Maybe just to save the next poor girl from dealing with his lack of judgement. It wasn't about him being honest. I'm all for honesty. But I feel when you're first getting to know each other, and you have nothing solid between the two of you, telling a girl you spend mad cash at a Strip Club is not recommended.

He seemed pretty dumbfounded about the whole thing. And went into the whole reformed Player defense and how he's never met anyone like me. But my Intuition was screaming at me to run...run far away!! And that voice was too loud for me to ignore.

It didn't go past that date. But the experience left me feeling confused (and I feel a lot of that lately). I'm not sure if I'm upset that a guy was finally completely honest with me, and I couldn't handle what he had to say. Or if all guys act like that, but don't tell the girls they are dating. Either way, it's not a good situation.

It definitely left me with more questions than answers and wishing the whole dating thing was a teeny bit more simple. God, if you're listening..I need a break!